The sooner you tell her the truth, the less damage she will suffer.This is not easy, but what it always boils down to is what would you want done for you.If you’re able to determine which of the two brothers is your father, then try to find out whether he was single when you were conceived by searching on him in Ancestry to see if you can find any marriage certificates for him or by asking relatives for that kind of information.
I felt myself falling into a depression shortly after but mentally blocked it from my mind knowing I had to take care of my daughter.I only know the name of my "uncle" and I've narrowed it down to 2 brothers - I don't even know if they are ali ve. If you need to talk, question, or vent email me at [email protected] He explained to me he was in the milatary and my mother left him and took me with her after the got Married, when he came back looking for his family she had started a new relationship. I feel lost and betrayed and still try to deal with all that's going on. I have not told anyone, I have not told my children that they have a grandfather.Godspeed My bio- father found me via Facebook after 40 years. I have a grandmother who is still alive and wants to meet me, my kids have a great-grandmother.People who haven’t experienced this will have difficulty understanding what the big deal is, but it forces you to re-examine your entire life, the good and the bad, which for me was mostly bad. I also just found out via Ancestry DNA that my dad was not my biological father and I don't know what dont know what do to with the info. I went through the exact situation your dealing with.Both patents and all grand parents, aunts, and uncles are dead so I have no one to ask about it. What chaos might I cause in his life if I meet him? Having to tell siblings, what to tell your kids etc. The only difference between a victim and a rescuer is the mind set with which you enter a catatrophe.